Calculate freedom

Oct 01
2009

Once I went to another city, visiting a few years older than my friends. In my circle of friends, he can be called a highly respected, and everyone liked him, I am willing to exchange with him. Several friends have had together, talk over, they all thought he was the biggest feature is the spiritual detachment Dan Ding, has most people have no freedom of the soul, and with him, and then people will be infected neurotic number of static air.

I am at his house for a few days. Dinner after a day in his study, where tea chat. The contents of the chat far apart, all-encompassing. Sometimes two people do not talk a long time, I watched him slowly pour into pot, tea to the cup, do not feel boring.

I asked him, do you come from a share of the free and easy bones revealing how the practice come from? He looked at me, silent for a moment, then stood up, I’ll show you something. Him from the bottom of a bookcase file box out a piece of paper handed to me. This is an A4 printing paper, paper filled with words. He told me that this is his 24-year-old birthday to write things. I know that when he was a university graduate student. I very seriously up: 14532933

1, dormitories, there are two people do not buy open-water bottle, used up my bottle of water not to find water. I decided to put my water bottle, and they spent two years back they played two years of water. If the water did not run out of water to drink, I drink tap water; there is no hot water washing, I use cold water washing. I do not want to become supervisors of their acts, more reluctant because they are angry was sloppy.

2, buy the small things, shopping, no counter-offer. One day lost an average of three hair loss of about 100 yuan a year, this loss, I confessed.

3, buy clothes, do not lose too much counter-offer, no. Is called the girlfriend to buy, bargaining is fun for her, for I am not.

4, take the bus, and never grab a seat, as long as one person standing away from the empty seats do not sit near me.

5, others find themselves through the things that can be borrowed as far as possible by.

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Mo Kanwan, I would categorically say that these things are too trivial, but the underlying motivation for some practices there are also problems, such as the heart may be afraid of conflict with others. I believe that a harmonious personality and deep introspection related, but has nothing to do with these sentimental things.

He smiled and said, I do not want to convince you, but you think about it, life is composed by many of the trivial, the above are trivial, you can learn by analogy, become many, many trivial. Or that my calculations and the value is not the money or conflict, but rather spiritual freedom.

He told me a story: a disciple of Confucius, there are luxury wagon, roughly equivalent to one person is now a Mercedes-Benz 600. Another person something to do at home, would like to take his carriage with a use, but not open. After the disciples heard this, put the horse burned. Others puzzled, he said, I have a coach, others did not dare borrow through, then I still sported do?

He then told me that he had had a value of 3,000 professional-level camera, until he figured out those chores, he always used it secretly, for fear that others know after looking for him to take, by not good, do not lend at好. Figured out who, he put the camera on the dormitory unlocked drawer, with whoever who wants to use, the camera also used the last of the “end” of the time.

3,000 yuan to buy a psychological freedom, you say not Hua Delai draw? Then he Hei hei Huaixiao a moment say that if you would like to take your wife, that is another matter. I also laughed. That night, he did not completely convince me. However, since then I ride the bus, we found that there are no seats to sit, feeling very good. Because the wider field of vision when standing up a wider, you can see more people and scenery

Wonderful life

Sep 30
2009

kengding2016Know two people, a very, very poor one. Rich is well-known real estate veterans, drove the 3.001 million vehicles, like photography, photographic equipment is more than 1 million classic, to Tsinghua read MBA.

Poor is the tread of human tricycles, and every day, waited at the supermarket side, pull a few odd jobs, one day down, good, earns 20 bad words on a few dollars. Living in the edge of a city about the demolition of the shanties, the home also has a paralyzed woman.

They lived very different lives, but have the same attitude towards life.

While the rich man rich, but it is also a romantic man, he said that money earned is used to show their ability, in addition, there are, how much? He built a lot of hope primary school, with his wife to Europe, travel, unlike other wealthy people do not stick to less busy feet.

Go to Tsinghua University to school, the professor said to be a test you will know who will run their own businesses. Everyone put in front of the whole mobile phone to go to boot. As they are the bosses level characters, the natural business is busy, all the phones ringing off the hook, only his cell phone was silent. Says, this man will live the most and most will be operating their own businesses, he know how to let go, know how to make their own private space.

He laughed, he said, I told his vice president, and only two major events that occurred can give me a call, one company with a fire company out of two major incidents died. The other, you can deal with their own, because the first decade, he has to lay a foundation.

Said he planned to retire at 45, then go around the Paipian Zi, with their own money publishing, not for anything else, because it is a dream of his youth.

He also brought his wife to live in the mountains. He said that when the little fairy that lived in the mountains.

He did not think Li Ka-shing, said that he was the loser, because more than 70 years old and still a front-line charge forward, can only say that no new blood. He should be decentralized, so, he is the more successful of the Li Ka-shing.

The rich have such a realm is not an easy task.

Well-being of the poor is not less than his.

Although the earned less home, his wife would be being, his wife will be singing, and he learned to pull erhu, eaten with rice, if necessary, a singing, and he is contented, although the poor are poorer points, can have his wife’s love , there are those like opera singing, he is also satisfied. His wife had been to Beijing, he pulled her to ride three, walked to sing. A TV photographed them, that they are wandering caravan, he laughs and says, that is a fun map.

The rich and the poor, how much joy the difference? If you use money to measure, a great difference between the rich can buy happiness for many of the seemingly happy, the poor can not. If the spirit to measure, it is almost the same, they feel happy, no one much less than anyone else.

Two kinds of life, like life, if you feel very happy, more money point less, really does not matter. Because, living out of a beautiful mind, it is the most wonderful life.

Be honest with yourself

Sep 29
2009

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People in the world can not do without friends, but the most faithful friend, or yourself to see if you are good at doing his own friends. To be able to make my own friends, you have to stand on their own than that outside higher and see farther, allowing panoramic views from the start to his life, to remind, encourage and guide. In fact, each one of us who, in addition to external self-other, all still has an inner spiritual self. Unfortunately, many people in this inner self is always sleeping with, even stunted. In order to enable the healthy growth of the inner self, you have to give it adequate nutrition. If you regularly read good books, meditation, appreciation of the arts and so on, have a rich spiritual life, you will feel in you really have a higher self, this self is your steadfast life on the road the spirit of close friends.

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I have two self-possession. A good move, what must be tried and what wants to experience. Another hi quiet, for all to examine and digest. This is another self, as if it sent me to this world event, at the same time has always been concern that the vision of my place within it, ready to recall it my side. Even though I suffered in the world, the most tragic disasters and failures, as long as know the way to return it, I would not annihilated. It is my patron saint, for I am guarding a forever home, so I will not go homeless.

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Impermanence of things makes the ancient sages advocated a number of retired ourselves up, quiet and inactive, indifferent. I hate this philosophy. I would love to see people set up a dynamic manner the cause of great joy to falling in love, stirring to enjoy life. But do not forget the most important thing: you still belong to yourself. Everyone is a universe, each person should have a self-sufficient spiritual world. This is a safe place in which treasure your most precious treasures, no disaster can not violate it. Mind is a strange book, only the income, no expenses, all the pain and joy of life, have turned into a valuable experience for income credited to its column. Yes, even the pain is also a kind of income. People seem to have two self-self to the world up a struggle, to pursue, and perhaps triumph, and perhaps lost return from his mouth, the other a quiet smile of self-will, this Bianti sweat and blood of tears with a smile of self-Ying come home to abundant spoils pointed out to him, who also have a return game losing streak.

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Sympathy between people, there is justice and humanity, there is love. Therefore, self-denial to help people in the world have mercy and gallant self-sacrifice. However, every person, after all, a biological and psychological individual, the most cutting their primary concern has been the most earnest manner only he can perceive. In this sense, for each individual, he was most concerned about is himself, he is also the world’s most concerned about is himself. To others he was more concerned with himself than he should be concerned about the person than others, more concerned with his own, as individuals are in violation of the biological and psychological nature. Conclusion: everyone should be self-sustaining.

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Do your own 1 cynics and critics, this is a self-cultivation, it enables us to maintain a sober and avoid falling into the pretentious or Guyingzilian the position ridiculous and sad.

Joy is very simple

Sep 28
2009

Everyone wants happiness. She is like a messenger that lets us forget troubles and suffering. There are many people born there are many factors that make him happy; there are many people, life, lonely wandering life, and happiness seems doomed to miss. However, as long as you carefully look for, it quickly found that: happiness is actually very simple.

Happiness can be practiced regularly. Happiness is a kind of self-cultivation, you can get through practice. This is not a secret, the question is when we have troubled times, take that happiness can actually go through a skill acquisition, rather than the mercy of a bad mood a little bit of Decan bite you. When feeling bored, the wear sports pants, to a two kilometers jogging, so that my Chuyishenhan, and then washed a hot bath; as experience working pressure, we also do not have a frown all day to take a hard pumping smoke, you can go outside, facing the blue sky and white clouds, with open arms, do a few long deep breath and roared at several more; you can over the Internet, chat, listen to music, fantasy that they have in the prize … … In fact, happiness belong to each one of us, it is also can be practiced regularly. Happy jogging on that occasion in a deep breath on that in that segment wonderful music, happiness is actually very simple.

Happiness is a choice. Heard such a story: Muhammad and Alibaba are good friends. On one occasion, a slap in the face Alibaba fought Muhammad, Muhammad was very angry to go to the beach wrote: One day a certain period, a slap in the face Alibaba fought Muhammad. On another occasion, when Muhammad is about to fall off a cliff, the Alibaba promptly pulled him one. Mohammed is very grateful, so carved in stone on the Road: One day a certain period, Alibaba saved Mohammed’s life. Alibaba is very puzzling. Muhammad smiled and told him: “I put between you and me unhappy with the mistake was on the beach in the hope that it is high tide when the water disappears without a trace; I put the happiness and friendship between carved in stone, and stone, like the hope that it immortal. ”

Muhammad is a wise man: he chose happy, so happy he was also selected. Some people always feel that their life is full of misfortune and sadness, they are wondering why some people are always happy for a day? In fact, the idea is very simple, which is their own choice. Forgive other people’s mistakes, and to give encouragement and the courage to correct errors; intention to remember their time to help others, and hearts filled with gratitude. In this way, you will be happy. In fact, happiness is the choice, the happiness carved in stone, you will always be happy. Happy In fact, as simple as that! f8445744dadad71a879473db

Happiness is understood to give up. Give also a kind of wisdom, and know how to give up you could find another at ease with happiness. Life sometimes is the case, you can not burdened with what they want has completed all of your entire life. So, if you want to achieve their goals, they must be discarded. Has nothing to do with the heart to, the confusion of ideas and personal considerations and the desire to give up, eyes only for what you want to achieve the goal, thus making it easier. Willing to be willing to, there are homes have too. Life of each person be able to bear the weight of a certain, if you are prematurely loaded with the road, after that you have to give up some of the original treasure in exchange for other things. Life of the option is so not perfect, but that is the true meaning of life. To reduce the burden of life, to give up some trouble, giving up some benefits, you will be able to move forward with ease, you and happy time soon. Happy In fact, simple as that.

Don’t let ideal ruin your life

Sep 28
2009

4e49fc458c11cb02cefca30fThis is a wide expanse of fields, the land is fertile and lush. In order to irrigate crops, farmers here, people dug two rivers, a small point, a big point. This large, we may just call him river bar.

At first, streams and rivers are diligently irrigation, the two sides bumper crops year after year. But one day, the river suddenly had an idea, he going to look at the sea. Life out of this idea, we can no longer contain himself. I am a river, how can we, and Natiao stream, as die of old age in this lonely countryside it. Rivers summon the power of whole body, a wave upon wave rushed from afar. Have to acknowledge that river is tough to overcome difficulties, he broke through many of the ridge with the peaks, he from his goal closer. Look back on stream, he was not help give birth to a heart of compassion: Oh, not the pursuit of the stream too.

Unfortunately, the last one day, river plunged headlong into the desert, and his point of water that soon evaporated. River shouted out “apprenticeship Czech Republic, the body does not die first, to make heroes of tears over a long lapel.” Will no longer disappear.

There is no water, no years, the river on the block, and a few years, the river has been filled.

The Natiao stream, still diligently irrigation of crops, the farmer’s harvest for the two sides has achieved a lot. In order to get more water to irrigate, it is to stream the river widened, but also a wide river than before. Stream bustling all day long, there are Huanyi vegetables and farm women, there are bathing the children play, there is boating fishing tourists … … Hachisuba Tada, rippling blue waves, water, fish and fat width.

Also the transmission through the generations multiply river by locals as “Mother River,” while the original to which the river has long been the slightest sign of a Xunbu Dao.

Rivers, he set the goal too ambitious, he forgot his own is nothing but a countryside of inland river. Thus, small-scale strong as a long time, more people arrogant ignorance, to see clearly. So, the pursuit should be moderate.

Creek’s success tells us that, based on their own to realize where the collective value of the value of the individual can be achieved. For example, you allow the company to improve performance, and grow and develop, and you value also out. Leaving aside the collective value of single-minded pursuit of individual success, often in vain.

Just be yourself

Sep 28
2009

6d4fccfc37fedc66d7887dc7I think God is a relative term. Like ants to a tree hole, a water drowned their children to God for the people of Nagasaki in 1945, that four American pilots looking for is a seamless cloud of God, for the 1519 The Aztecs, the Spaniards on horseback who is God.

In my childhood, Dad is God. He can decide whether or not I hit hit, although this matter in theory depend on my test paper on top of that figure. But the thing is not so, I really depend on his bashing good or bad mood … … or for him, of his work “God” my mood is good or bad. so this matter, such as chaos theory, has become difficult to predict.

As a God, it is another privilege that can set someone else’s life, such as my father, he saw me around wildly, I felt that I should cultivate an elegant hobby. He would consider a long time after the decision to let me learn traditional Chinese painting, the whole process of is also very odd, he did not for me to hire teacher, but directly bought Xu Wei, Shi Tao’s album let me copy, thinking that I would without a teacher. Whenever I occasion, he’s leaning against the chair leisurely on the decadent music in general listening to Teresa Teng’s side of my monitor. This is really painful process ~ I did not dare to duty, he does not respect the old.

I was lucky, relatively speaking, because soon her father will let me, but it can not go the whole blame him, we already live in a set of life for the sake of others, excessive Lane.

We have too many so-called thinker willing to do someone else’s God, they are most invigorating thing is to set someone else’s life, set the rules, as they themselves can not be done, it is very difficult to say.

Therefore, Mr. Gu Zhun, said: “China’s ideological and moral training of only, there is no logic, no philosophy.”

Not only is China’s philosophers, even such a great philosopher Plato is also happy to set up others. His “Utopia” is to Sparta as a prototype, and on people’s lives to do a variety of settings in detail, but we know that in the Peloponnesian War, the Spartans simply can not afford this big barracks outside temptations, the system quickly collapsed, who do not like fast-paced world ah.

Fortunately, there is no ideal country finally realized, Emerson said: “burned all the libraries it, because the value of all of them are in this book (referring to” Utopia “Lane).” I feel that these words are not burning is low, do you think it is a good one can do, can hinder your other books what ah.

Large and small in my life encountered countless “God”, they will come for you to set lofty ideals, a better life, set a bright future, high-quality, often time, I will think of an ordinary island, Erland poetess — Anna Lv Desitaide poem: “Of course I saw in Europe, those who sat at the table of men and women. I was born it as, but grew up only: Anna in the world to do.”

 

Life clock

Sep 25
2009

A friend’s father was dying, a friend called me from abroad, let me help him.
     I know what he meant, even with the fastest speed, he can only come back in four hours later, and his father, has been impossible to survive four hours.
     Rushed to the hospital, saw a friend’s father, whole body was filled tubes, are rapid breathing. Bed, Wai full of sad relatives.
     At that time a friend’s father, manic anxiety, eyes closed, hands grasping at random. I vaguely heard him crying friend’s name.
     Everyone look at me, eyes full of helpless expectations. I walked over and gently grabbed his hand, I said, yes me, I come back.
     A friend’s father, at once quiet, serene facial expression becomes. But only a little later, he again became manic, he let go of my hand, continued to be arbitrarily arrested.
     I know, I can not cheat him. No one know more about than his own son. 007-clock001
     So I told him that his son is still abroad, but four hours later, it will certainly come back. My friend’s father said, I promise.
     I saw his relatives fear the eye.
     But the friend’s father was once again quiet, and then his head, hard in one direction Waizhuo, an eagerly raised hand.
     I note that the direction of the wall hung a clock.
     My friend’s father said it was now 1:10. 5:10 pm, your son will come.
     A friend’s father put down his hand, I saw him a long sigh of relief, even though he closed his eyes, but I expect you can almost feel his eyes.
     Every ten minutes, I would have grabbed his hand, with his report the time. Every four hours, 10 minutes was neatly divided, and sometimes I feel that he was about to leave, but always be a month of 10 minutes reclaim.
     My friends rushed to the hospital, he grabbed his father’s hand, he said, was me, I come back. I saw the friend’s father from the closed eyes inside out to meet two drops of tears, and then quietly leave.
     A friend’s father, in order to wait for his son, in order to listen to the voice of his son, survived the last of his life is also the longest four hours. Each one doctor said, unbelievable.
     Later on, I think that if his son can be back in five hours, then he can continue to survive for an hour?
     I think it will. The last moment of life, family can not bear to leave him.
     Leisurely family ties, each one the life of the world clock.

Hope

Sep 24
2009

If I just illiterate rural women, many children, raise a few pigs guarding her husband sunrise and sunset, when the troubles may be only a pig sty end of the year how much they can sell, ground how to harvest the crops inside, or the child’s clothing is not her husband what should purchase, and only a pity that I am not such a woman, and I yearn to be concerned about. Is love, eager to have a sick person around Zhilengzhire being, vulnerability, when it was comforting, crying, when there is a solid chest can rely on,,, but all this is my fantasy. No / nothing / When I worked a full day dragged his exhausted body home, only the endless housework and Xie Yu as a tool for my husband waiting for me,,,,, Is this the fate of the do? My life is doomed to repeat this day after day forever?

Sometimes people are really very strange, just as two people who love to leave a few days had intended to get mad, I could go to one, but also do not know what to say, you looked at me, I hope that really you, knowing smile, Then is the silent lonely.
Have a good faith in order to have a true love, in good faith can be like spring melted the snow and ice; sincere, like autumn, you can moisten dusty mind. Used in good faith when you faced in the world, you get in return in good faith.
Understanding and love go hand in hand, if you have to fight traffic and the daily necessities of life, understanding, love has become open the door to a golden key. Sometimes the word inadvertently, may be the brilliant achievements of a smile; well-designed dish may make you sleep more soundly.

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To have a home life is not easy to have a warm and harmonious home more difficult, so a man looking for a confidante, a woman wants and friends rely on each woman’s little secret would say that listening to the woman, a woman would say that the big secret to the man listen, I do not know the philosophy of how the lives of people off, but true love does not know how to understand the word philosopher.
In fact, love is a mutual attachment between people feeling, a feeling like water and butter, tea, when it became a honey dissolved into the moment, it becomes love. When it’s intoxicating aroma will allow each other the moment, it becomes a true love.

Love, but meteors can also be a star, but love eternal.
Sensitive and sentimental似水I, in the desire to be able to meet a general Wei-steady as a mountain man, so I rely on, any of my coquetry, the chord of unison, relative to moisten in order to wipe, whole life.

White snow

Sep 24
2009

Hazy morning I felt a Wonderful Time I Spent in the trees, sleeping, I smell the fragrance of snow! This year’s first snow seemed to come a bit late, it seems premature, but that does not matter, it is important to once be able to enjoy the charm of snow, snow, and a great happy very intoxicated! !

Watch freedom of dancing in the air like snow, it seems that his childhood back in time, back to that freedom of the sky, without binding, loss of troubles, freedom of The Champion! Beautiful, good romance! !
One out, they entered the bringing a snow world. Snow still, such as goose feather, like flowers, like the catkins. . . . . White elf indiscriminately Durian Sasa. Although the cold biting, but the naughty children gleefully cheered, sometimes there are funny while people were unaware of the boy, straining to shake the tree, hoaxes, let the snow fall into the trunk of the neck companion, in the companion Xiao Ma, and catching up with four dodge , laughing. A group of small children dressed in colorful clothing, stretching cold red hands busy heap in the snow snowman in mind: Santa Claus, Spiderman, Princess … … and some snowball, some snowball fights, as well as in the play with to enjoy their own to find the “ice “…… adults Xiao Ma in the side of this, um, pointing that this, already laughing. Childhood snow with laughter song and slowly but gradually clear the floor!

I like snow, like snow like dirty snow all-inclusive broad-mindedness, more like a person walking in the snow quietly, exposure to the arms of snow, any thoughts flying to the wind bother trivialities. Enjoy a romantic snow, snow’s flawless, and understand that the baptism of nature, let her purification, distillation of his soul. Like this snow, this love forever my heart, my heart snow ……

Stand in this amazing snow, I looked up and looking at the sky, snow from the day the highest point of the floating heads of state, under the Holy Spirit and crisp with a heavenly atmosphere. And allow the wizard white hair falling over, those who live surrounded by the cold atmosphere of their own eyes it actually gradually raised the mist. Look at many of the falling snow there were numerous, and appreciate her in the vast sky of strange things to listen to when she was floating down the subtle sound of the earth, accompanied by thoughts of her dance … … I will be flying from a taste of the spring’s footsteps
Sun and the moon remains the same, rain and snow still, I have forgotten behind the wind and rain, blue sky ……
This reminds me a lot of snow.
I have not look at the change of scenery. Now I was back in a long time ago kind of mood. Snow flying, quiet and peaceful.
Mind is so quiet, time is so quiet, my heart mediocre enrich themselves, in today’s ice and snow added to a point where happiness.

Like the phrase: winter comes, can spring be far behind? I know that this is a very cold winter, very cold, but you, like Spring, will re-warm, into my world. This is the eternal embrace the faith, my firm the road, to go down this icy road. Even though my world was full of snow and ice, I have come across the same.
I am on the road, full of snow and ice on the road. I do not know how much time I could hug with you. But I believe that as long as we keep interest rates will certainly be able to work hand in hand towards that bright future.
 

Tears

Sep 23
2009

I, one of my tiny face of life, fear, For friends, family, and self, I have nothing more to say that in addition to bear, there is no other way, tears streaming out are always disobedient, I do not want, I really do not want to, for myself, my silent … …

Every time the dead of night, I’ll think of my best friends told me off saying: Life is never sympathetic to the weak, you have to learn to strong. Do not shed a tear, the outside world does not believe in tears, crying that no one should find a place to hide to cry, do not let other people know that fragile, and must be strong! These words, I have always remember, but I am really good alone, good help … …
When you can not help but want to stream out of tears when the eyes wide open, Do not blink! You will see the world
Blurred by the clear and the whole process of change, the heart will be on your tears falling clear of that moment has become clear …
I know you’re good to me, to my care, I can feel that you told me everything about you? Felt that everything I told you it? Love is not possession, not you like the moon on the moon can be picked and placed the basin. Love is not bound, not a person you are bound, they bound her heart. People are free, everyone belongs to himself, does not belong to someone else. We can not deal with such a selfish love, treat a loved one, because we have to give each other a sub-space, a sub-heaven and earth … … We are all a little love each other, then love to be motives, let us also to each other a space.

Yesterday, not happy, let me in a dream, feel the trembling heart, sense of emptiness. Early morning, I got up ready for everything, sitting boarded, telling myself that can not cry. Surprisingly, “Heaven” also under the “Rain”, and walked on, when the tears across the mouth when it knew that that they have cried for a long time. Do you know, I do not like to quarrel every day, the day? You know, I want a happy life is it? Do you know, nothing important, it is important that we happy? You may know, I do not want you all, as long as you love me good? That time I sad, sad, when you can see, you can not have another kind of attitude to me? May not be your fault that I was wrong. Wrong, too much … …

Sat in the car looking out the window, only to find that he is an empty box, like there is no soul. Again said to break up, I sad and painful, but I do not want we will not be happy and happiness. Therefore, we should be properly. We are all quiet, to think about it more than two years, what happened between them, whether hate Ye Hao, a love matter whether we believe that we are hard to forget. This has granted it a us a chance together, and perhaps this is the last chance, and we can treasure do? OK?
Waiting is a very long process … … and hope that we share of humility and understanding of each other’s state of mind.

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